According to the National Runaway Switchboard, running away is most common between the ages of 13-17, and more than twice as likely for youth in foster care than the general population. This behavior can be dangerous for teens and terrifying for parents.
Being prepared for a teen’s return home can be pivotal. You’re likely to feel a flood of mixed emotions from relief to anger. Though it may be very challenging, managing your emotions during this time is crucial. Remember, behavior is communication. Listening to and addressing the reasons they ran are key in repairing the relationship and preventing future incidents.
Here are other suggestions:
- Let them know how much you care for them and that your first and foremost concern is for their safety and well-being
- Provide a safe and calm space for them to talk
- Let them express how they are feeling without blame or judgment
- Listen carefully and compassionately
- Stick to “I” statements (e.g., “I was concerned about what could happen to you …”)
- Commit to helping them find solutions (e.g., more consistent contact with birth family, getting a tutor, trying a new therapist, finding room for compromise, etc.)
Although the teen years are a time of conflict, crisis, and testing independence, youth still need and benefit from a close bond with a trusted adult. Holding space to listen and understand how that youth is feeling, and seeking out professional help where needed, are powerful tools to help keep your teen safe. Parents need to be heard, too! If your teen is struggling, know that the Resource Specialists at the Coalition are here to help.
Recommended Resources
Training From Champion Classrooms
From the Resource Library
- Running Away, by Dr. Rick Delaney
- Healing Parents: Helping Wounded Children Learn to Trust & Love, by Michael Orlans & Terry M. Levi
Tip Sheet
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