Supporting Children When School Becomes Challenging

Children in out-of-home care often experience extra challenges at school due to a combination of their own complex needs, frequent moves, disrupted routines, and the impact of trauma.

But there is also so much hope. Caring adults can make an incredible difference simply by showing steady support, especially when school becomes tough or motivation drops.

One of the most helpful shifts we can make is focusing less on the final grade and more on the child’s effort. When kids learn that their determination matters more than “getting it perfect,” their confidence grows in a powerful and lasting way.

Three Ways to Help Children Increase Their Confidence at School

  1. Redefine Success and Celebrate Small Wins. When a big project or a tough subject feels overwhelming, help the child break it down into smaller, more manageable steps. Instead of focusing on achieving an “A” on a history report, a win might be “finding three reliable sources,” “creating an outline,” or “writing the introductory paragraph.” These small successes can help children feel capable and in control, which is important when they feel overwhelmed. At the same time, it can help build long-term confidence.
  2. Make Learning a Team Effort. A caring relationship with a trusted adult is one of the strongest supports a child can have during challenging times because it reinforces connection and safety. Try approaching school struggles with curiosity and connection. For example, use phrases like, “This is hard, and we’ll figure it out together.” When kids feel emotionally safe, they are more willing to try, take risks, and keep going.
  3. Lift Up Strengths Outside of School. If school is the place where a child consistently feels like they are facing difficulties, their overall confidence can plummet. It’s important for children to feel successful outside of the classroom. Find or create opportunities for them to shine and be recognized for their strengths, whether it is art, theatre, music, sports, volunteering, or anything they enjoy. Feeling confident in one area provides the emotional resilience needed to face challenges in another.

Understanding Educational Support Tools

For children with disabilities or those requiring accommodations, understanding the following formal plans is essential:

  • IEP (Individualized Educational Program)

This is a legal document for public school students eligible for special education under the IDEA (Individuals with Disabilities Education Act). It outlines the student’s unique learning needs, specific goals, services, accommodations, and how progress will be measured, typically involving specialized instruction.

  • 504 Plan

A formal plan under Section 504 of the Rehabilitation Act (a civil rights law). It provides accommodations and support—like extended time on tests, preferential seating, or breaks—to students with disabilities so they can fully participate in the general education classroom. A 504 Plan is for students who do not need specialized instruction, unlike an IEP.

The Power of Caring Adults

Research consistently shows that children in out-of-home care thrive when they have steady, caring adults in their lives. Support works best when the important adults in a child’s life stay connected and communicate well.

  • Parents and Caregivers: Foster, kinship, and adoptive parents play a huge role. Attending school meetings, helping with homework, and advocating for a child’s needs make a real and lasting difference.
  • Caseworkers and Schools: Good communication between child welfare workers and schools helps make transitions smoother and ensures the child’s needs are understood.
  • Mentors and Community Allies: Mentors, coaches, and other supportive adults help children feel valued, connected, and seen.

Your compassionate care makes a meaningful difference in the lives of children every day. By providing children with encouragement, stability, and unwavering support during challenging times, you reinforce their emotional safety and security. When you consistently celebrate their educational efforts over their educational outcomes, you are reinforcing resilience and empowering educational achievement.

If you need additional support or resources to navigate these challenges, connect with us today. Our Resource Specialists are available to listen and connect you to resources. You can reach us by calling 414-475-1246 or emailing info@coalitionforcyf.org

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